Relationships and expectations

I wonder how two people who are madly in love with each other end up fighting and seperating. The main culprit as per me is always expectations. Its really really very important to have right expectations.

I have seen couples who are very happy with each other inspite of them being very different, inpite of their bad physical relations, inspite of all the differences they have. And the main reason of their successful relationship is - they know exactly what and how much to expect from the other. And ofcourse it takes years to come to this level where you both expect just the right. Many relationships fail to reach that level.
We get into a relation when we see the other person meeting the imagination we have for our ideal parner but with time we start realizing there are many things that are not as we thought they would be. And that is the time most crutial for a relationship. If the partners can withstand the pressure built because of the expectations and understand that it is imposssible for the other to meet all the expectations, the relationship will flourish.  I also call it accepting the other person as he/ she is.

I just wish that we all can learn this art of accepting the other the way he/ she is and able to communicate and set the right expectations. 

Romance with nature

O dear take me to the land of dreams...

Where fresh rays of morning sun

bring with them the hope for a new day

and fragrant red roses

remind us of selfless love

Where dew drop on green grass

soothes feet with its sweet kiss

and cool breeze from the river

silently whispers a love message

Where lovers sit for hours holding hands

watching surreal sunsets 

and changing colors of the sky

bids adieu to a wonderful day

Where moon lit beautiful night

brings with it lovely dreams

and song of nightingale 

ushers you to the world of dreams 

O dear just take me there

where there are no worries

and no hurries

That's the land of dreams I dream of!

Adjustments

"Adjustment is the greatest prayer" Amjad Ali said while addressing the audience at a show by Amaan Ali at Kamani.

Be it playing an instrument with another master and adjusting to his tunes or living life and adjusting to its strange ways... Adjustment IS the greatest prayer

I, me and myself

I love:
- Sweet smell of roses and green grass

- Sound of chirping birds
- Watching Sunsets
- Long walks

- Getting wet in rains

- Listening to soft music

- Watching romantic or philosophical movies

- Participating in Chai adda with family and friends

- Traveling, writing and talking to familiar strangers I meet on my journeys

- Day dreaming

I believe in:
- Living life on my own terms.
- Always on a look out for challenges. Routine life bores me to the core.

The Strangers

After a decade of knowing each other
Strangely they are still strangers.

They have yet not been able to

deep dive into the each others hearts.

They have yet not been able to
touch each others soul

They are still strangers

And strange is their life

Together yet apart,

Near yet distant. 

Living just with one hope 

One day, someday
They will be able to confide in each other

No longer will they be strangers  


                                                          ~ Shailza

Grown ups are very strange - I

How strange is this that we never bargain at a big stores while buying our branded clothes
but we do so with poor rickshaw puller...

Even today!

Just a casual question from a friend: "Is your brother younger to you?"
"I would not have been in this world, if he was elder." the 12 years old girls replied innocently.