Beware Dear Colleagues!

You come up with a new idea and there will be 10 others ready to oppose it!

I feel happy about people finding mistakes in the work I have done on my new idea. This gives me the opportunity to have a look at my work from different angles.

Someone throw negatives on my idea, I pick them up turn them into positives and add to my idea. So their motive behind throwing negatives is defeated and also now the idea has come up even better (without any loopholes).

So those throwing negatives on my ideas, beware. You might actually be making my idea even more strong ;)

Expectations!

Do I have any chance to get admission in IIMs? No
Do I enjoy the job I am doing right now? No
Do I have a satifying relationship? No
Do I have any chance of marrying son of some Ambani or Mittal? No
Then why am I living?

This is the conversation I heard today morning while in cab on my way to office. A colleague of mine took 5 days off as she was not well. And what was the illness - she was in depression. The lady is just 21. She gulped the whole bottle of shampoo thinking this would end her worries.

I wonder what does this new generation want. The expectations are getting higher and higher...from self, from relationships and from life. They do not want to settle for less. Yes its good to have the best... but is it right to expect so much that if the expectations are not met, life seems to be worthless?

There are 2 ways of looking at life.

One - look at the best and repent why u don't have that.

And the second - look at the worst and be happy that u have better.

I would like to choose the latter because of the simple reason that it makes me happy. Though it has a risk of achieving little less. But I wouldn't mind taking that risk if it gives me peace of mind.

P.S. - Do drop in a line and let me know your views on this.

Ladies Coupe

A nice thing about reading a "good book" is - it leaves you with lots of thoughts to ponder upon.

Book I read today - Ladies coupe. Life of a lady... her journey from when she achieves womenhood... to feeling like a women...what makes a women complete... to her search for happiness from the perspective of 6 ladies traveling in a same coupe - the Ladies coupe. They come from different backgrounds but have something in common. They all are in search of themselves... in search of real happiness. Their lives are either guided by their fathers, brothers, husbands or sons. They have similar questions. How much liberty do they have to take decisions of their life? Are they just the extensions of the men in their lives?

The protagonist Akila has been living her life on what is expected of her rather than what she wants for herself.
"I don't care what anyone thinks. I am who I am. And I have as much right as anyone else to live as I chose" one of her friends had told her once.
True. In my view true happiness comes when you do what you want to do and are not ruled by the guidlines put together by "so called society".

But the question arises - till what extent. You can't just do anything you wish to? Society has some norms.
I would say - who is society, who has made those norms? Its people like you and me. We make society, so why can't we frame the laws that make us happy rather than sad. Why do we want to look at a lady only as either a daughter, a wife or a mother and not as an individual who other than taking care of people around her, is an individual with her own needs, her own wishes, and her own desires? Why can't we let her live her life on her terms? Why do we have so many regulations for her when there are none for their male counterparts?

Some of other lines in the book that touched me and I would like to mention here are - "You mustn't become one of those women who groom to please others. The only person you need to please is yourself. When you look into a mirror, the reflection should make you feel happy."

My wish list...

Travel around the world. Meet as many people possible. Live with them and experience their world. Wanna study various cultures.

When I started writing this thot it wud be a long long list but strangely at present this the only wish I can think of... There are some secret wishes as well that I am not going to reveal here ;-)

Set yourself free!

They say -
Let it be unknown thats anonymous!

I resist -
You will not find lands unknown
if you dont explore for the fear of getting lost.
And neither will you be able to find shells
if you don't dive deep for the fear of drowning.

You will not find yourself
if you dont come out of your shell for the fear of embarrasing yourself.
And neither will you find your love
if you don't express your feelings for the fear of rejection.

And how will you experience that wonderful feeling
if you don't let yourself be for the fear of being judged.

This is the land unknown - "Dream land"
where you'll find true happiness...
Go explore the world,
find the unknown outside and within.

Dear Terrorist,

Have you ever tried bringing a smile on someone's face? I have and believe me there's nothing in this world that gives more satisfaction than this. Be it giving a rikshawwala an extra 20 bucks because he had asked for little less than others being new to the city, or helping a small girl getting that flower she is trying to reach from past few min, or feeding a small hungry child a parantha that you would have thrown otherwise.

How can you derive satisfaction from harming others, killing others. Nothing can justify the tears of a mother who has lost her small child in front of her eyes, the tears of a new bride who lost her husband, the tears of an old man who lost his only hope.

Just try bringing smile to someone's face once and see if that brings more satisfaction or harming people for some reason unknown.

For the unmarried guys out there!!!

The other day I was talking to one of my friends and was surprised to know the views of educated young men (even today)

Answering to the query about the kind of life partner he's looking for, he says..."one who can cook for me and other family members, who can do all household work, who can take care of him when he's back from his office, who can.... and list goes on. She should also be beautiful, from a good family, highly educated and again list goes on... "So you want a beautiful educated homely girl" I asked. He protests and adds "No, she will be allowed to work, but she should be back home before me."

I think he doesn't want a life partner but someone who can keep him and his family happy and at the same time can earn some money rather than being paid for the good work she is doing for them.

Don't take me wrong. I am not against 'bahu' taking care of her in laws and husband, but I just want to ask the guys - "what about her own identity". What did he mean when he said "she will be allowed to work". Doesn't she has the right to choose whether or not she wants to work after marriage???

I am a married lady myself, living happily. My parents-in -law are even closer than my own parents. We all are seperate individuals bound with lots of love, care and support.

Respect as an individual is what a girl coming from a different family wants. You love her, support her, and respect her as an individual and in return you will get all you look for in a 'bahu'. A girl loves to do household work, cooking for her family, taking care of them as long as she is treated as an individual and gets full respect from all in the family.

You expect world from her... but just have a look inside you. Are you good enough to be a life partner of a person who has so many abilities???